I have no idea what a normal couple looks like, since I only know other academic couples.
Apparently there are people who aren’t up at midnight writing lectures or marking midterms, but I do not know these people to speak to.
Being an academic couple means spending, and needing, a lot of time alone, because how else can you concentrate on your work? We take turns taking care of the children, being home, running errands, and so on, to give the other person a chance to work. We meet at dinner. We talk about groceries, the children’s schedules, where we can afford to go on holiday, anything but work.
Being an academic couple means that we are agreed on one essential principle: that we’re not in this for the money. I like that. I really like that.
-- Mildred from Medicine Hat